I’m talking about the seven year itch. The notion that after seven years of marriage partners are less inclined to be in a monogamous relationship and are most likely to get divorced.
First marriages end up in divorces in an average duration of just less than 8 years.
Paul and I are only one year away from the “itch”. We’ll be celebrating our six year wedding anniversary on St. Patrick’s Day next month.
Am I worried about next year? I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t.
Paul and I were at each others’ throats at only two years of marriage, and are wringing each others’ necks at nearly six years of marriage. Would it come as a shock to reach our breaking point at seven years of marriage? No. But I’m definitely going to do everything in my power, (as I’m sure Paul will too) to ensure it doesn’t get to that point.
I know marriage isn’t easy. Marriage is about compromise. When you take two very different people and put them in a situation where they are with each other every single day for years, they are bound to argue and fight. The difference is we are not just two different people who were thrown into a situation, but rather two people who vowed to spend the rest of our lives together for “better or worse”. It’s not a situation we can just walk away from and clean our hands of. Its a lot more complicated than that, especially when there are children involved.
So although I fight with Paul more often than I would like, if we ever reach our breaking point he can be damn sure that I’m going to fight for him.
Over a 40 year period, 67 percent of first marriages terminate in a divorce and 50 percent of these divorces take place within the first 7 years.
Are you worried about the seven year itch? Or have you made it past the seven year itch?